"The most important of life's battles is the one we fight daily in the silent chambers of the soul."

Wednesday, July 25, 2007

Nails In The Fence

Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:

Ephesians 4:31

The best remedy for a short temper is a long walk. ~Jacqueline Schiff

There was a little boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, to hammer a nail in the back fence.

The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Then it gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.

The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.

You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out, it won't matter how many times you say "I'm sorry," the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.

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For our anger and short temper Christ took a long walk to control it; all the way to Calvary. He let angry men put him on a cross with three, rusty nails. And as the nails were pulled out anger had been conquered. His scars like the fence are there cause of our anger to remind us of the cost. Love is stronger than hate.


Lance Gargus

He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.

Proverbs 16:32

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Enemy of the Republic said...

That's a good story, Lance--the anger that is bitter does leave scars, just like when evil goes into the world, it really doesn't matter whether there is revenge because it changes nothing; we just have to heal from the wound. But I don't believe anger to be evil; it's what we do with it. Some people are angry from issues of childhood; they saw horrible things when they were too young to process them. You can't simply say to such a person--cease to be angry, because the wound is too deep and that creates guilt and self-anger. Instead you ask for healing. Just my thought.

Vanessa said...

Excellent story - words can be so harmful. Thank God for His cleansing power!

Anonymous said...

We can learn a lesson even where it is not expected. Thats why it is always need to have open mind and open heart.
God Bless you my friend!

Kim said...

AMEN!! Another beautifully written post that is, as always, inspired God. Thank you for letting Him use you to challenge and encourage others. God bless you!

LauraLee Shaw said...

Lance, I love this post! I can tell you firsthand that this is a very effective parenting tool. I first read the quote from Lisa Whelchel's (sp?) Creative Correction book. It certainly painted a convicting and thought-provoking picture for me! So glad you posted it for all to see. It is a vivid picture.

FishHawk said...

Methinks I like the quote by Lance Gargus the best.

Anonymous said...

Great article. Great message. Thanks for sharing.

AngelBaby said...

Great story and a wonderful way to teach children about anger.

There is nothing more important than Love. God says we should love others like we love ourselves. If we could love others unconditionally this would be a wonderful world.

Love and Blessings,

SuzyQ said...

This was such a good analogy.
Thanks for sharing :)

By the way there is a giveaway going on over at my place at the moment:)

Blessings and peace


lady jhunnelle said...

nice story, the bible says that reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

thanks for the comment:) I linked yours already.


Sandy said...

I love that story...thank you for sharing it. God bless, Sandy

Channelofhealing said...

A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. . . I should know the verbal wound is worse cos the wound may heal but the words will be inplanted in your heart forever

Great post Lance


mangelnoah07 said...

I love this post!!! I certainly agree about what Jaqcueline Schiff said.

Taking short afternoon walks relieves me from my anger, disappontments, frustrations and almost any negative and destructive emotions. It gives me time to sort things out in my head, see a different perspective on a given situation and pray and have a talk with God.

Keep up!!! ;p

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